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May
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Welcome Colourful Cohort
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Our May training was hard work and heart work, but these adventurous dialoguers pushed the envelope and came out as phenomenal facilitators. Soon you will be seeing them in action, just watch our events calender for future dialogues.

Mar
14
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Cape Town NNI Dialogue March 2019
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Saturday was our monthly Cape Town NNI dialogue (Next one is on the 13th April)

This is what our NNI Facilitator-coach Roger took from the session:

‘Mental health issues and the impact on young people

Eleven participants from diverse backgrounds and life experiences show up and make their voices heard in one of our regular monthly transformational dialogues in the CBD of Cape Town.

Once again, amidst the rough and tumble of daily activity, each participant is invited to pause, to dialogue, to allow the system to see itself, to shif(t), and to open to new awareness, insights, wisdom and energy that prepares the way for accountable citizenship and actions.

The topic is chosen by the participants: “Why has there been an increase in mental health issues in SA, and especially the impact of these on young people?”

After the “agreements”, the dream emerges – a world characterised by ‘calm’, ‘compassion’, ‘educated parents who are able to diagnose timeously’, ‘caring family’, ‘hope’, ‘enlightenment’, ‘connection’, ‘young people with a sense of purpose’, ‘psychologists and psychiatrists are out of business’, ‘playtime’, ‘centres to build confidence and creativity’, ‘acceptance with equality’, ‘lots more sport (physical productiveness and fitness irrespective’, ‘art and music’, ‘freedom of movement’.

Yet there is a lot getting in the way of the dream, preparing the way for the dialogue. There are “limitations” and “financial interests”, and our starter voices: ‘environment’, ‘doubt’ (especially in young people), ‘media and social media’, ‘unnurturing education system’, and ‘ignorance’. Then the voice of ‘question’ emerges after the starter voices have already expressed themselves, pushing back immediately and wanting to know whether in fact there has been an increase in mental health problems among young people, or whether a host of other factors are also at play. The system seems attentive to the questions and engage openly. A lot of the dialogue sits in content with ideas and insights freely shared as the dialogue opens up and the system reveals itself. At times the system drops into ‘emotion’, with expressions of ‘discouragement’, ‘sense of failure’, ‘hopelessness’, ‘confusion’, ‘doubt’, ‘fears realised’, and later also the voices of ‘trauma’, ‘stress’, ‘pressure’, ‘angst’, ‘concern’, ‘parent’, and ‘hope’ are identified and expressed.

There are the more significant voices: At the start when the voice of “question” pushes back and demands more clarity on the topic of “mental health” and the real impact it is having on young people? The system is compelled to engage with this voice and offer greater understanding for itself as the wrestling with the topic continues.

Other voices also emerge, though not directly engaged with: ‘limitations’, “gaming”, “death”. Then the significant voice of “doubt” (more marginalised and embodied by a young person) speaks up to challenge the system.

At this point, a pause in the system is invited as it is allowed to look at itself and identify a “missing voice” that may need to be heard.

The voice of “structural violence” speaks up, feeling very effective in its control of the system. At this point, more energy is present in the system. The voice of “we have no idea” is birthed in the voice of “unnurturing education system” as this voice accepts that it is locked into, controlled by and replicating “structural violence”.

Several other significant voices begin to speak up. The voice of “doubt” expresses itself directly –now addressing the voice of the “older people” that had not yet been positioned in the system though is present from the start. The voice of “concern” speaks up and the voice of “doubt” feel more encouraged, and moved to occupy the voice of “concern”, declaring that it here it is finding more “hope”. The system accepts that the voice of the “young person” now needs to be positioned, having been talked about, though not yet directly expressed.

The energy of the system is shifting with the voices of “parent”, “mother” and “old person” now identified, and occupied in one corner of the system, and engaging more directly with the voice of “young person”. More emotions are finding expression: “desperate”, “powerless”, “isn’t everyone not seeing what I’m experiencing?” and “angst” increasing in the voice of “concern”. The voice of “single parent” and “single mother” also emerges from within the voice of “concern”, speaking of feeling a sense of failure as “structural violence” and “the system” exerts more and more power and control.
“The system is there, ever present, dominant, polarising, but no one is prepared to take responsibility”; “we can blame the system, but what can we do to change the system?”

Meanwhile, “the system” continues to speak confidently and powerfully: “if you want to change anything you (literally) have to come through me!” The voice of “concern”, “parent” and “mother” realises that “the system is leading us by our nose. We need to wake up and do things together. We cannot be fighting; we cannot be more frustrated with each other.”
Feelings of “sad”, ‘hopeless”, “disappointed”, “disempowered” find expression as the voice of “the system” still exerts its power and control. Then the voice of “hope” speaks up more strongly, in the midst of the oppressive system bearing down all around. There is a determined shif(t) as this dialogue comes to a close.

A rich harvesting follows as participants reflect on what has happened in the system, and what insights and awareness has come about, and what has shifted for the system and for each individual. ‘Hope deferred makes the heart sick’, ‘heart sickness may be the mental issues’, ‘despair breeds hope’, ‘the system created false expectations’, ‘now we have seen reality’, ‘my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge’ (biblical text), ‘knowledge is power’, ‘listen to young people’, we need “a system that effectively educates young people,’ ‘a more holistic system’, ‘people created the system, so people must change the system’.

Participants engage in pairs around their individual ‘Actions and Accountabilities’ as a buzz fills the sacred space. Each one is open to take responsibility, and dare to bring about the changes needed in the world where health and well-being can become more tangible; where the dream can become more real and tangible. The sharing is rich and enthusiastic, and the commitments to take action are specific, time-bound and accountable.

In the end, the “new community” celebrates with high fives and a double dose of the Mexican wave. The networking and engagement continue for a while after the dialogue ends and there is a palpable feeling of hope despite the challenges that “the system” has revealed today.”

Mar
14
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NNI Dialogue Institute with Child Protection Collaborative
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On Friday 8th March NNI Dialogue Institute facilitated a dialogue with Child Protection Collaborative. NNIDI Facilitator-coaches Roger and Karen lead this dialogue to deeper and more transformative levels.

*A NNI Ignite Dialogue was the perfect way for the Child Protection Collaborative (CPC) to start 2019. Committed member organisations of the CPC – all of whom work with children in one way or the other – attended the dialogue and did the work for the larger system.

It was an immensely powerful dialogue which Karen and Roger skilfully facilitated and the system easily and with high regard entered into moments of essence. It seemed to be an almost cathartic process for NGO professionals in this sector who are continuously faced with the carnage of violence and abuse against children.

The voice of the CHILD and the voice of HORROR interacted in its chilling reality…the voices of CHILD PROTECTION, the SYSTEM and the PARENT frustrated the CHILD more than HORROR and VIOLENCE because of the CHILD’s lack of trust in these voices. RAGE emerged, and when RAGE felt pain; it almost made it’s way over to HORROR as that seemed more attractive for a moment – HORROR seemed to be more consistent and more powerful. But HORROR also emerged as a double-sided with an element of feeling numb. The CHILD was silenced by the other voices and eventually left the room. This was a true moment of essence.

When putting together Actions and Accountabilities, it was the most simple strategies that triumphed and provided the group with hope. A report will be put together, the Reference Group of the CPC will gather and the entire CPC will come together again within the next month to finalise the strategy according to what emerged in this dialogue. The CPC was intentional about crystalising the strategic vision for the journey forward; and the first step was most definitely accomplished in this dialogue with more dialogues to follow”
– Lynn-Joy Participant and NNI Agent

Feb
19
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NNI Cape Town Training 2019
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The 4 Day Intro Intensive in Transformational Group Process and Dialogue Facilitation – Cape Town, South Africa

1st – 4th May 2019

The NNI methodology is neither usual ‘facilitation’ nor usual ‘dialogue’ – it is learning to be a dialogue warrior; how to guide any team, group or community to their edge, and facilitate their transformative process in order to cross safely to a new paradigm:
An Introduction to NNI Transformational Dialogue Facilitation:
– for Facilitators, Coaches, Change management & Organisational Development-practitioners, Catalysts, Community leaders, Civil society mobilisers, Human beings wanting to further greater global and local equality

Cost: R8500
Limited number of Scholarships available.

nni Facilitator Training


Contact [email protected] for more information

 

Feb
19
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Cape Town Dialogue Feb 2019
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2019 in Cape Town will hold a free dialogue every month! We had our first one of the year, and it was a great success. People from all over CT were there to dialogue the topic of ‘Our #@$€£¥ Economy’! A global nni agent pair was facilitating this one: Adelaide from CT and Wiebke all the way from Berlin 😊

“18 people came to engage in an NNI Dialogue on the topic of “Our #@$€£ Economy”.

We got to feel a huge amount of anger and blame, we saw how hard it is to really see and listen to each other, and the pain that comes with that.
We got to see impatience and a strong wish to help, but how? We heard that collaborating with other rescuers is easier and more satisfying than listening to the victim that doesn’t present its view points in a way that’s easy to take. We saw the ambiguity that lives in succeeding despite the system.

With “Thuma Mina” and “mind shift needs to happen” holding the space, the system started seeing and acknowledging its pain and anger, frustration and resilience, hope and love. Towards the end there seemed to be more space for all voices to be seen. An uplifted energy and palpable sense of “We are all part of the solution” was present.

Dialogue participants claimed their responsibility as pro-active citizens and committed to significant actions, such as sponsoring children’s education, bringing Dialogue into their communities (4 people have dedicated to this as their A&A), as well as attending Dialogues in areas they’d usually not visit. Kudos to all the brave people who did some powerful and not easy work for the greater system!”

These dialogues will be held monthly. Please see our events calender for more information.

Dec
11
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NNI Dialogue Berlin 8 December
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“Four power women came to dive deeply into Dialogue on the topic of trust. While the topic remained quite open, there clearly was one specific and important question in the air: What does it mean to trust myself and others in relationships? We experienced the struggle between following and celebrating our impulses while respecting and maintaining healthy boundaries. We also discovered a fair amount of anger underneath control, including fear to express anger and shame after having expressed it. (Is that a female habit?) Finally, the courageous release of the heated energy (anger) brought clarity and created a deeper level of mutual respect and appreciation! We learned that trust is dependent on truthful expression of thoughts and feelings, even if that is uncomfortable or creates momentary conflict. Fear was also a wonderful teacher. As it got our attention it morphed quickly into freedom and showed us that there is “more than one way”. Thank you to the brave women who came and co-created a space of truth, vulnerability, love and… TRUST.”

NNI Agent Wiebke

Nov
8
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NNI Diversity Dialogue in October
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NNI Diversity Dialogue (https://tt-tt.co.za/blog/) in October was a focused on the topic of Hope. The facilitators Kay and Vera took the group on a journey through feeling trapped into freedom.

“During our October Diversity Dialogue with the topic of “Finding Hope”, two strong voices emerged – the “trapped” and the “free”.

At one point the trapped voice explained “It feels like we tell them our struggle and they bombard us with this hope thing. They say, here is a wall, climb it and everything will be okay. We come from a background where no-one climbed the wall. Hope and motivation itself are a leg-up we did not have.”

Later, the free voice said, “At some point, I have to ask, how can I help you with the skills I have learnt coming from my background? I take the time to sit down and try to help you. How do I show you that I am trying to empower you and not belittle you? I am trying to pass on skills down a chain.”

During this dialogue, there was movement towards each other and a greater understanding of each other’s point of view. We left with the will to apply what we had learnt into our contexts, trying to pass more hope on to others in love.”

At NNI we know that dialogue is a way to claim back our power, and work through our difficulties to find our way back to hope, and through it, take action to transform our country.

Please contact us if you are interested in a dialogue with your community.

Nov
6
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NNI Dialogue Soweto 3rd November
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Much needed dialogue in Soweto unpacking the recently held National Gender-Based Violence and Femicide Summit.
More conversations are needed with young people on issues of national importance.

Oct
9
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NNI Fabulous Womxn
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A Big welcome to our newest cohort of nni agents, the FABULOUS WOMXN! Fierce, funny, passionate, powerful, expansive…

These brave and passionate women participated in our September JHB NNI training. They are already making changes to the world!

Oct
9
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Blog post from a facilitator
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A brilliant blog post about our NNI Facilitator training, and the outcomes and work that followed. Thank you Paula for putting your experiences into words:

I’m going to give a training in London next month, do you want to join?’, said the founder of nni (no name initiative), an admirable woman I trust. That would be her first dialogue facilitation training in London, after years of running it successfully in South Africa.
The invitation came during one of those phases when I needed novelty (which happens more often than I dare to admit to myself). I had no idea what a ‘dialogue’ was, if there was any difference versus the uncountable business facilitations I did during my career or if it was like group coaching. I was curious, so I decided to check…
That training was life changing beyond the technical learnings. I always had an urge to ‘save the world’, but never found a way to start. But in a world where polarisation is the order of the day, and people are increasingly struggling to listen and understand the other (or even themselves), the course gave me a tool to start changing this near me.
Since then, I facilitated 10 dialogues in my community, with topics ranging from ‘fear of terrorism’, ‘religion in today’s world’, ‘materialism’, ‘racial justice’ and ‘polarisation’. The next will be about ‘loneliness’. These are big social themes that evoke big emotions. I learnt a lot about them, about people and about how group dynamics (or systems) work and change. Most importantly, people who participate have a safe space to share their views; feel heard and respected, whatever their perspectives; increase their self awareness; understand ‘the other’ and feel empowered to make shifts in their own lives.
Is this a drop in the ocean? Maybe. But every movement starts somewhere and nni has been in this journey for years. I’m proud of being part of it and, thanks to my curiosity, doing my share to change the world, one drop at a time.
https://paulaswhitecanvas.blogspot.com/2018/10/a-life-changing-moment.html