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Nov
8
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NNI Diversity Dialogue in October
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NNI Diversity Dialogue (https://tt-tt.co.za/blog/) in October was a focused on the topic of Hope. The facilitators Kay and Vera took the group on a journey through feeling trapped into freedom.

“During our October Diversity Dialogue with the topic of “Finding Hope”, two strong voices emerged – the “trapped” and the “free”.

At one point the trapped voice explained “It feels like we tell them our struggle and they bombard us with this hope thing. They say, here is a wall, climb it and everything will be okay. We come from a background where no-one climbed the wall. Hope and motivation itself are a leg-up we did not have.”

Later, the free voice said, “At some point, I have to ask, how can I help you with the skills I have learnt coming from my background? I take the time to sit down and try to help you. How do I show you that I am trying to empower you and not belittle you? I am trying to pass on skills down a chain.”

During this dialogue, there was movement towards each other and a greater understanding of each other’s point of view. We left with the will to apply what we had learnt into our contexts, trying to pass more hope on to others in love.”

At NNI we know that dialogue is a way to claim back our power, and work through our difficulties to find our way back to hope, and through it, take action to transform our country.

Please contact us if you are interested in a dialogue with your community.

Nov
6
Admin NNI
NNI Dialogue Soweto 3rd November
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Much needed dialogue in Soweto unpacking the recently held National Gender-Based Violence and Femicide Summit.
More conversations are needed with young people on issues of national importance.

Oct
9
Admin NNI
NNI Fabulous Womxn
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A Big welcome to our newest cohort of nni agents, the FABULOUS WOMXN! Fierce, funny, passionate, powerful, expansive…

These brave and passionate women participated in our September JHB NNI training. They are already making changes to the world!

Oct
9
Admin NNI
Blog post from a facilitator
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A brilliant blog post about our NNI Facilitator training, and the outcomes and work that followed. Thank you Paula for putting your experiences into words:

I’m going to give a training in London next month, do you want to join?’, said the founder of nni (no name initiative), an admirable woman I trust. That would be her first dialogue facilitation training in London, after years of running it successfully in South Africa.
The invitation came during one of those phases when I needed novelty (which happens more often than I dare to admit to myself). I had no idea what a ‘dialogue’ was, if there was any difference versus the uncountable business facilitations I did during my career or if it was like group coaching. I was curious, so I decided to check…
That training was life changing beyond the technical learnings. I always had an urge to ‘save the world’, but never found a way to start. But in a world where polarisation is the order of the day, and people are increasingly struggling to listen and understand the other (or even themselves), the course gave me a tool to start changing this near me.
Since then, I facilitated 10 dialogues in my community, with topics ranging from ‘fear of terrorism’, ‘religion in today’s world’, ‘materialism’, ‘racial justice’ and ‘polarisation’. The next will be about ‘loneliness’. These are big social themes that evoke big emotions. I learnt a lot about them, about people and about how group dynamics (or systems) work and change. Most importantly, people who participate have a safe space to share their views; feel heard and respected, whatever their perspectives; increase their self awareness; understand ‘the other’ and feel empowered to make shifts in their own lives.
Is this a drop in the ocean? Maybe. But every movement starts somewhere and nni has been in this journey for years. I’m proud of being part of it and, thanks to my curiosity, doing my share to change the world, one drop at a time.
https://paulaswhitecanvas.blogspot.com/2018/10/a-life-changing-moment.html
Aug
17
Admin NNI
Women’s Day NNI – Consciousness Café
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This women’s day – Consciousness Café was fortunate to be invited into the Pretoria space through the Torralbas Burchell family. At the Open Warehouse, 2 men and several women chose the topic of “How do we (as women) take men along on the journey to a better society”
The topic was a heavy one; with a heavy gravity being felt in the room from the very beginning of the dialogue. Women expressed their frustration with a world that ignores their abilities; pays them less; and dismisses their emotions and opinions because they’re on their period or they are pmsing. Apart from the violence that patriarchy has made normal in women’s lives, the group was absorbed in a moment of the myriad of difficulties standing between a better society for all; both men and women.
Men became vulnerable and expressed the sheer fear they feel for what women are capable of, and the strength they show in dealing with emotions, and how women just do the very things men fail and are so challenged to do with such grace and finesse. We acknowledged the need for each other in a society filled with broken men; and even though we can call them trash, what next? How do we fix the next generation of men; most of all – is it our job as women to keep fixing when that’s all we’ve been doing?

The dialogue reached a pmore hopeful space when we realized our collective responsibility in changing the status quo. Men realized their responsibility in challenging male friends and family when they spoke out of turn and perpetuated patriarchy. Equally; women realized that as fatigued as they are, we still need to keep calling out injustice and addressing issues whenever we can.

It was an important and necessary conversation, and we were all lifted out of complacency and encouraged to keep up the good fight for women in our society

We ended off with a delicious hearty braai to feed the hungry but determined soul.

Aug
15
Admin NNI
NNI Diversity Dialogue on the 4th August
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What blocks progress?

The topic of “What blocks progress?” drew the most votes at our Diversity Dialogue on 4 August 2018 – “We have such potential as a country. Why are we stuck?” A long list of reasons was identified: Inequality & poverty, Labelling & discrimination, Poor leadership with no integrity, Broken people, families & communities, Fear, A culture of destruction & rage, Greed, Denialism, Right wingers, White supremacy, Patriarchy, Despondent & desperate youth … it seemed overwhelming – there was a general feeling of paralysis and fear in the room.

Anger moved us out of this trapped overwhelming feeling at the beginning of our time together and it became a lively dialogue … For more details follow the link http://tt-tt.co.za/blog/

 

Aug
15
Admin NNI
NNI Cape Town 4th August Dialogue
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On the 4th of August NNI Special Agents Roger and Dave, organised and facilitated an NNI in Cape Town. The chosen topic was “Providing a common space and place within and between communities/groups.:

“Dreams for this included: Empowerment, safety, being heard, respected, acknowledged, cared for valued, ability to overcome regrets, disappointments/past, children are educated understand what it is to be human beings, spark for connection is present, connecting with out human essence, freedom of choice to be the best you can be and want to be.

The initial voices were danger, ‘oversimplified boxes’, blame, fear, ‘guises and lies we tell ourselves’, stereotyping and shutdown. We then entered a deeper place of ‘helplessness’ and pride as barriers to such a desired place. Then there emerged the voice of “judgement dropped’, and empathy and choice. Each person provided personal actions and accountabilities to take forward.

Participants, 3 of whom were completely new to the NNI process, were appreciative of the opportunity to pause, dialogue and allow shifts to happen for them and in them. Each came away with definite actions and each remained open to the ongoing value and contribution that our transformational dialogue process can add for further human connection.”

Aug
15
Admin NNI
NNI Dialogue in Berlin on the 4th August
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NNI Agent Swaan facilitated an NNI in Berlin on the 4th August:
“The latest Berlin dialogue started out with democracy and extremism as a topic – and the dream revealed that in Berlin we already see much of what we would like to see in the rest of the world, namely diversity and respect for each other. The dialogue itself turned out to be an intensely emotional affair, with a focus on anger and feeling misunderstood, followed by the frustration of not knowing how to deal with it. Much intensive learning for all involved. More to follow!”

Aug
15
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NNI Berlin 1st August Dialogue
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Our fantastic NNI Agent Wiebke facilitated a Berlin NNI on the 1st of August, on the topic of ‘(not) feeling loved’:
” When love spoke, it sounded quite heady and judgemental… “How things should be… ” & “If we acted out of love… “.
Love so wants to connect, but isn’t welcome everywhere and all the time. Especially if love wants to fix and heal things, but doesn’t listen.
True listening does not happen very often.
At end of NNI the group were all very connected, lying, sitting, messy, a bit of love everywhere, with lots of room to acknowledge and include sadness and pain.”

Jul
24
Admin NNI
NNI Berlin – July 21
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“On a hot summer weekend day, 8 brave people chose to stay for 5 hours in Dialogue.
The topic chosen was CONFLICT/FIGHT. What a courageous decision! It sounded like an important topic on many levels, both in personal relationships and also in the global theme of a politically divided society.
The dream looked alive and energetic, far from peaceful harmony. It was clear that once today’s conflict issues are resolved, we’ll actually be able to speak and disagree more openly, honestly and confidently. Clearly, our capacity to be with diversity would have grown enourmously.
What surfaced during the Dialogue were all the many ways how facing conflict is being avoided, and also the frustration and anger that comes with that. It was only when anger and well-educated were facing each other, and anger still wasn’t able to express and be heard, that all the pain that lives in well-educated became visible. Finally, a good amount of pain had a chance to be expressed and heard. We left the Dialogue with a sense of relief, love, connection, excitement, but also discomfort and more pain.
One of the golden learnings we heard is: When we allow anger to be expressed without being directed at someone, we do not know what will come out. Maybe pain.
In general, most of the learnings were about our ability/inability to express emotions and the cost of that. Also inquiries around: Are women more easily ready to express pain, while men are more easily able to express anger? What is our relationship with anger?
A hot spot arouse during the harvesting when a woman said the voice of power had transformed when it was inhabited by a woman and not a man. A lot of energy for another Dialogue…
I am so proud of this Dialogue group and the shift that happened. Thank you!” – NNI Agent
Wiebke